ARTICLES ON EXECUTIVE COACHING

What a Fictional CEO Teaches About Real Ones

What a Fictional CEO Teaches About Real Ones

Why write a novel about a narcissistic CEO? Because a narcissistic leader who would fight any feedback report can still recognise himself in a story. Fiction gets past the armour: there is no messenger to shoot. Wahlberg, my business novel about CEO Dirk Wahlberg, has...

Negotiating with a Narcissist

Negotiating with a Narcissist

How do you negotiate with a narcissist? By negotiating with the pattern instead of the person you wish were present. Concretely: manage the relationship between the deal and their self-image, because the pattern will pay real money to protect the story; never spend...

Hiring, Promotion and the Narcissism Filter

Hiring, Promotion and the Narcissism Filter

Can you screen narcissism out of executive hiring? Not with the tools most organisations use: assessments entertain, references defend, and interviews actively select for the pattern, because interviews reward confident self-presentation, which is the pattern’s native...

Can Narcissistic Executives Be Coached?

Can Narcissistic Executives Be Coached?

Can narcissistic executives be coached? Some can, under three knowable conditions: the executive must privately feel the cost of the pattern, the method must target behaviour rather than biography and measure progress through stakeholders rather than self-report, and...

Working for a Narcissistic Boss at Senior Level

Working for a Narcissistic Boss at Senior Level

How do you work for a narcissistic boss as a senior executive? Avoid the two instinctive strategies, public confrontation and silent endurance, because the first triggers retaliation and the second licenses escalation. What works is calm, boundaried usefulness:...

The Board’s Guide to a Narcissistic CEO

The Board’s Guide to a Narcissistic CEO

What should a board do about a narcissistic CEO? Diagnose the phase before the person, gather stakeholder reality independently of the CEO’s narration, act while results are still good, and choose deliberately between three options: govern the pattern, develop it...

The Polished and the Unpolished Alpha Wolf

The Polished and the Unpolished Alpha Wolf

What is a polished alpha wolf? A polished alpha wolf is a leader who keeps the full narcissistic engine (decisiveness, threat sensitivity, courage, vision) but has deliberately added the one capacity the pattern lacks: reciprocity. The unpolished alpha wolf runs the...

Talented Narcissism: A Definition

Talented Narcissism: A Definition

Talented narcissism is the productive end of the narcissistic spectrum: the combination of drive, charisma, vision and crisis composure that grows out of an early deficit in unconditional recognition, and that gives its owner a genuine head start in leadership while...

The Handover: What Outlives the Coach

The Handover: What Outlives the Coach

A coach who is still necessary after two years has failed. I say that to every board that hires me, usually in the first conversation, and it is not modesty. It is the design specification. The deliverable of this work is not the sessions; it is the handover. The...

Why Every CEO Needs a Coach | TRUE Leadership

Why Every CEO Needs a Coach | TRUE Leadership

Let me start with something uncomfortable: the higher you climb, the worse your information gets. Not because people lie to you—though some do—but because the system around you slowly stops telling the truth. Your team filters bad news. Your board speaks in...

Leadership Loneliness: The Silent Challenge at the Top

Leadership Loneliness: The Silent Challenge at the Top

Sixty percent of CEOs report feeling isolated in their role. When I read that statistic, my first thought was: the other forty percent aren’t being honest. I’ve worked with hundreds of senior executives, and loneliness is not the exception—it’s the architecture of the...

Authority Versus Legitimacy

Authority Versus Legitimacy

When power remains, but consent dissolves I recently read an article on Time that described a situation both disturbing and increasingly familiar. It outlined a presidency that generates global tension on an almost daily basis. A leader who, in the eyes of roughly...

Leadership Is Not a Spiritual Journey

Leadership Is Not a Spiritual Journey

And why that is exactly where its strength lies There is a recurring impulse to frame leadership as something spiritual. The greater the responsibility, the stronger the urge to surround it with concepts such as awareness, purpose, calling, or even enlightenment. In...

When Mayors Act Like Heads of State

When Mayors Act Like Heads of State

Why Management-Level “Leadership” Breaks Down Across Europe and beyond, a new form of local boldness is widely applauded. Media outlets highlight mayors who challenge extremism, reshape cities, and forge international partnerships to address housing shortages or...

The Reality Distortion Field

The Reality Distortion Field

Why Collectives Endure Falsehood and Dysfunction I found myself once again genuinely unsettled by Donald J. Trump’s appearance in Davos. Years ago, Walter Isaacson famously described what he called a Reality Distortion Field surrounding Steve Jobs: an ability to bend...

Suicidal Empathy

Suicidal Empathy

When Care for the Other Becomes Destructive I have written often about leadership and have consistently stressed the importance of reciprocity. Functional leadership depends on mutuality: the capacity to connect without self-erasure, to influence without merging, to...

The Chamber of Reflections

The Chamber of Reflections

The Chamber of Reflections Vladimir Putin, leadership, and the risk of losing contact with reality At its core, leadership is a relationship with reality. Not with ideology, intention, or identity—but with what actually exists. As leaders rise higher, that...

The Quality of Thought

The Quality of Thought

How understanding emerges through dialogue Human experience is always filtered through an individual perspective. What is ultimately real can never be known with absolute certainty. We may try to approximate reality by having many people observe the same phenomenon...

Rethinking Burnout

Rethinking Burnout

A Reality Check at Both Extremes To begin with, burnout is nothing. It is not a medical condition.It is not a diagnosis. It is not a pathology. In modern language, “burnout” has become a convenient container—an all-purpose label for exhaustion, frustration,...

Authority versus Legitimacy by Arvid Buit

When authority survives but legitimacy collapses

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